This is where I am right now (literally, as I type). Waiting for paint to dry and attempting to process where my head is at currently…
Day 1 of….the Rest of Our Lives? Haha not that dramatic. But I feel like we’ve been thrown into the world of fostering a little earlier than anticipated, and suddenly it all feels real and much closer.
We talked and talked last night (also ate food, and zoned out a bit…) as well as informing the people around us about the decision we were making. Responses were positive, who knows what people really think…probs that we’re mad, but this is a decision that we need to make by ourselves. It is so good to know there are so many people supporting us though, even they think we’re mental 😉
So today. I texted our social worker at 730 wondering if I could call her yet, then proceeded to email her our long list of questions, followed by calling her twice and finally getting through to explain where we were. Which was…well, kind of mental to say. We are actively pursuing considering the placement, which looks like getting as much info as we can from case notes (via a social worker, obvs not getting free access), talking to the foster carer who the kids are with now and talking to the kids’ social worker tomorrow morning.
However, in our hearts and minds, we’ve said yes. Yes to three kids that are at the top end of our (read: my) age limit. Years 1, 2 and 3 at school, so whilst they’re currently 5, 6 and 7, in a few short months we’d have a 6 year old, a 7 year old and an 8 year old. Not what I had in mind AT all. But you know what? I’m not sad about that. I’m not disappointed that we won’t be looking after babies and toddlers. I’d still love for us to take a younger sibling group at some point, but right now, right now, these kids need some level of permanence. We have the space and the capacity to provide that, and on top of that, we want to.
So how does it feel to be mentally preparing for them? Terrifying, exciting, overwhelming, nerve-wracking, intense, crazy, mental, surreal…WHAT IS THIS MADNESS. As if we’re going to be parents in less than a month! As I’d been anticipating littlies, I’d been gearing my prep towards that. Time to zoom out a bit and refocus. Despite an older age, both physically and academically, their emotional age is likely to be much younger; how do we help them navigate what’s happening to them and how they feel about it? How will we create good, strong, secure attachments with each one? Looks like we have some reading to do…as well as an Ikea trip to make 😉